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BRING MORE GRATITUDE INTO YOUR LIFE AT 60+

I never used to think about gratitude, but now, Beyond 60, I find it comes more and more to the front of my mind.

Big gratitudes, for simply being alive, and well, and warm. For living in a country that isn’t threatened by war or famine.

And smaller, more personal gratitudes, for the little pleasures that enrich every day life.

It’s good to notice these. Right now, the flame-orange of parrot tulips in the garden, the unfurling of fresh green leaves, the black furry aura of my cat’s sweetly curved haunch as she nestles down beside me.

I’m grateful for these, and when I notice myself noticing them, it enhances the feeling.

Keep a Visible Gratitude Record

Maybe you’ve tried keeping a gratitude journal? It’s something that happiness gurus often suggest. And it’s not without worth. I have a little notebook tucked away with sporadic entries.

But keeping it in a drawer means I forget about it for months at a time. So I decided to make something that I can see, to remind me of how much there is to be grateful for, and how powerful it is to mark that gratitude.

Above, you can see my Joy Jar. How corny, eh?

But I don’t care. I love my Gratitude Boot, and it stands on the shelf I see when I open my eyes every morning.

It’s made in a beer glass which I stole from my daughter’s room – apparently her mates pinched it from a bar in Portugal. You could make one in any container that takes your fancy.

I love cutting up images and using them, in the way that some people love to draw or paint. Snipping and shaping and sorting and choosing puts me in the zone, and that’s a good place to be.

I hoard cards I’ve been sent, fragments of coloured paper, and other bits and pieces. When a gratitude moment comes upon me I cut bits out and write my gratitude message on the back, and drop them into the jar.

Every so often, I give it a shake to rearrange it. When I see it, I remember just how many things there are to be grateful for.

Looking for Light in a World that’s often Dark

Maybe it’s cheesy, or trite. Or maybe that’s my self-judgement gremlin at work. All I know is,  when life takes a bleak turn, if I’ve had sad or bad news, or an overdose of harrowing stories via internet or TV bulletins and am left anxious, helpless or even despairing of the darkness of the world, I can turn to my little collection of joyful moments and find a spark of hope.

 

Just dipping in, and pulling out a few is enough. Now and then I even tip the whole lot out and read them. Where is gratitude to be found?

The memories fill me with warmth and pleasure all over again. I can travel back through time just by reading them: ‘ping pong with Clara’…’gorgeous spring sunshine’…’a day with Louise’…’looking forward to meeting J for dinner tonight’…’Sangha’…’Blogging Excitement!’…’photos sent by G’…’talking at the table with N until late’…’builder fixed the broken door’…’at least I didn’t break my right hand’…’Laughing with BB cos she overheard someone describe her as a lively-minded old bird’…’snow’…’beach walk’…’a warm cheese scone eaten outdoors’.

Tiny pleasures, and significant. They signal the joys of connecting with others, of love, of nature, of engagement with life. Good things to remember.

These are the fabric of which life is made. It’s good to see how many gratitude moments arise in any day, and it’s fun and rewarding to keep them in my jar of joy.

How do you remember moments that you’re grateful for? Please share your thoughts below.

How not to write Morning Pages

Notebooks full of  Morning Pages

Notebooks full of
Morning Pages

Following on from my earlier post on The Artists Way for Retirement (published in the USA as It’s Never Too Late to Begin Again), one of the key tasks and a daily part of the process is the writing of Morning Pages.

Julia Cameron is precise in her instructions for writing Morning Pages.

Do them early.
Use 3 pages of A4.
Cover the whole width of the page and don’t use paragraphs.
Write everything, no censoring, editing or pondering.
Don’t re-read. Don’t let anyone see your writing.
Pour the contents of your mind out on to the page and see where it leads you.

Sounds easy, especially for an inveterate diary writer like me. Yet somehow it was no surprise when on the first day the Gremlins of Resistance peered over my shoulder.

‘Don’t worry if you don’t get round to Morning pages til 10pm,’ they murmured. ‘A4’s far too big, it’ll take forever to cover 3 pages of that. Spread it all out, you’ll get done quicker. Be careful what you write, you don’t want to give too much away. Write as if someone was going to read it.’

Brief, scrappy and over-thought Morning Pages

Brief, scrappy over-thought Morning Pages

As I frequently forget to ignore my gremlins, I went along with them. The pages looked like this.

Writing them took less than 30 minutes.

It felt like another rushed job on the tick-list, something to gallop through, self-censoring all the while.

I continued like this for several weeks, and even though I was so thoroughly ignoring the instructions, the Morning Pages did still work some magic.

I began to discover things I’d forgotten I liked to do. Started making some changes, a few decisions.

Then, about 3 weeks from the end of the whole process, I re-read Julia Cameron’s instructions and decided to give them a proper shot, smother the pages with writing and say whatever came into my mind.

Full-width, no paragraphs, no self-editing

Full-width, no paragraphs, no self-editing

Now, the pages looked like this. It took an hour to do them. It felt as if I was getting somewhere, it was fun, and soon I was pouncing on my notebook first thing every morning.

I discovered that when you have to fill 3 large pages, you are forced to go deeper. There’s only so much fluff you can write down. And there’s a joy to producing a messy, illegible sprawl of writing, covering the lines, falling off the edges.

The Morning Pages agreed, and pointed me in new directions, towards interesting discoveries. Writing at length was a major key to working out what it was I needed to be doing to re-create my life post-retirement.

Try Morning Pages. They have a lot to tell you. But if you want to get the most from the process, shut your gremlins in the cellar and follow the instructions.

Elizabeth Martyn: Beyond 60

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The Artist’s Way for Retirement

The Artist's Way for Retirement
I have just finished working, writing, thinking, walking and dating my way through Julia Cameron’s The Artist’s Way for Retirement.

Dating? Yes indeed – taking a weekly Artist Date  –  an outing planned purely for my enjoyment, learning and delight – has been a wonderful part of the process.

On my Artist Dates I’ve sampled a silversmithing class, joined the upholstery club, browsed a huge junk furniture emporium and a vintage clothes shop, joined in with a  Buddhist meditation session, cycled to a garden centre to choose tulip bulbs, and gone to London to see a surreal exhibition by Icelandic artist Ragnar Kjartansson at the Barbican Centre. It’s very likely I’d have allowed myself none of these pleasurable excursions without the prompt of Artist Dating.

Writing Morning Pages

Julia Cameron describes Morning Pages as, ‘Three daily pages of longhand, stream-of-consciousness writing done first thing in the morning, “for your eyes only”.’

The reality of that is an hour’s worth of pouring your guts out on to the page, which has turned out to be a lot more enjoyable and useful than it sounds.

Writing Morning Pages almost daily for 3 months began as a chore, and became a habit I don’t want to stop, and have picked up again now the course is finished, in a slightly shorter form. Free writing provides a way in to deeper thoughts, emotions and desires. I’ve unearthed dreams I didn’t even know about, and begun putting some of them into action.

Morning Pages also give a way to explore what it means to be at this stage of life, where work is no longer the driver for getting out of bed in the morning, and the family have taken themselves off and are getting their own breakfasts in cities far away. A phase of life when there may be a lot of time to be spent, without the structure that went before.

That’s exciting, but also unnerving. What if I don’t use this time properly? What is properly? Suppose I die before I’ve done anything useful with my life? What shall I do? And whatever I choose, suppose I fail? What is any of it all about?

Plenty to think about there, so it’s no surprise that following The Artist’s Way for Retirement from start to finish took more than the 12 weeks prescribed by the author, who offers one chapter per week. Each chapter focuses on reigniting a new feeling – a sense of wonder, a sense of freedom, a sense of creativity. Some chapters interested me more than others, and took longer, and I spent about 16 weeks completing the whole book.

Julia Cameron’s style is warm and encouraging, but sometimes a bit cloying for this Brit’s taste. I preferred it when the tasks and exercises were straightforward, although oddly  when I began to follow the instructions and ask for guidance in my morning writing,  answers did begin to appear on the pages. Things I’d known all the time, but hadn’t quite managed to access before.

I also found a lot of synchronicity turning up as I started to take action to change my life, as people and opportunities began to appear miraculously at just the right moment. My own take on this is that once you commit to doing something and begin it, things start to fall into place. Maybe that’s simply the same thing as synchronicity.

Writing The Memoir

Writing the Memoir, another running task through the whole book, was the hardest for me. It’s only now that I’ve reached the end, having dashed something off quickly every week,  that I realise how much has been stirred up from the depths of my memory pond. Thoughts, dreams and ideas that have been down there a long time in the silt are starting to drift up to the surface, propelling me to rediscover pursuits I enjoyed in the past but had given up on, or even forgotten.

Finishing The Artist’s Way for Retirement

So what do you do when the book’s over? My plan now is gradually to look back at what I’ve done, take some time to reflect, then begin again and go through the whole process a second time, selecting the parts I want to concentrate on. I suspect it will feel quite different, and deeper.

And this time I will write about it all in this blog – which only came into being as a result of following The Artist’s Way in Retirement. It was during Week 10, Reignite a Sense of Vitality that Beyond 60 punched its way out and started strutting around in my mind demanding that I just go online – now, please – and give birth to an idea that had been gestating for months if not years.

By pure synchronicity, finding Julia Cameron’s inspiring book came at exactly the right moment. It was 18 months since my final days of work, which had been a  period of recalibration and questioning and not knowing quite what to do. I’m still working on that, but I’ve got many more ideas and possibilities and had my curiosity and energy piqued and sparked by this excellent book.
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